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"Any idea when you're speaking to the Haim sisters?" a message pops up. "My request was to ask if I can become their fourth member."

There is only a single issue: The sender also longs to be the Haims' additional sibling. What's more, we are far from alone. Multiple high-profile supporters have publicly coveted the position.

The evidence suggests something is going on. Sisters Este, Danielle and Alana launched their musical journey performing shows at neighborhood delis with their family. Now they're repeated Grammy hopefuls.

Like all the greatest groups, they're a close unit. Their videos often show them marching in unison down the avenues of Los Angeles. In concert, they perform with such unfettered happiness you can't help but think, "I wish to be part of that, too."

"How often on tour that young girls approached us and said, 'After your show, I got a bass'," states Alana, the youngest of the trio. "That is the biggest honour. It is a prize in itself. Our mission is accomplished if we can encourage young girls to start a band."

"So everyone are welcome to be the next part of the family."

Award Milestone

The band are speaking from their homes, where they're taking a pause after an major tour in promoting their latest album, I Quit.

They're currently celebrating the news it's been nominated for best rock album at the Grammy Awards – with Haim the pioneering female band ever in contention for the prize.

"I watch the lists every year, so it kind of feels like an out-of-body experience when your name is called," explains Alana. "I immediately called my sisters to say, 'Did I hear this correctly or am I imagining things'?"

The weight of the accolade resonates with the trio.

"We deliberately set out to make a rock record this time, so it's a significant step," says Alana. "However we're just appreciative for the pioneers that paved the way."

Emotional Upheaval and Candor

The record emerged from a time of transition. All three sisters were single, and the music captures that strange liminal space where you're relieved to be free, but not entirely ready to move on.

The themes track endings and farewells. The sisters want love, but not the specific love they've experienced. You can hear them determining in real life who they are becoming.

"I adore way of putting it, yes," says Danielle. "I Quit is essentially a slogan. You have to actively work on blocking the noise and saying, 'It doesn't matter to me what people think'."

Development of Sound

That newfound resilience demanded a fresh approach – more unpolished and direct than anything the band had done before.

For Danielle, who worked on producing the album, that began with the drum sound.

"Drums are such a detailed thing, and I focus so intensely about it," she says.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the name of our memoir," jokes Alana. "Our motto is, our albums won't commence until we find the right drum sound."

Experiences and Collective Humor

The trio's openness shaped the album's marketing, where the sisters disclosed some of their romantic tales.

One man broke up with Este over a medical consideration. Alana shared a story of travelling to spend New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a casual gesture at midnight.

"Experiencing these breakups, you just feel like there's no light," notes Alana. "Therefore to be able to share those stories and hear others tell you even crazier stories, it's therapeutic."

An Assured Path

It's not difficult sense a shift in the band. These days, Haim are more certain of their place in the rock pantheon.

They're festival headliners, with chart-topping albums and an global following.

Yet Haim will forever be their number one commitment.

"My sisters and I have been playing music since I was four," shares Alana. "There is no alternative that we were destined for. And I'm really grateful we've made it and we're still kicking."